Gay kenya: ANAL SEX - WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW.

ANAL SEX - WHAT YOU NEED TO KNOW.
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Anal sex is stimulation of the anus during sexual activity. It can be done in
several different ways: manually, orally or by anal intercourse.
Anal sex can be the primary form of sexual activity or it can accompany other
types of stimulation. For instance, couples sometimes include manual stimulation
of the anus (either lightly rubbing the rim or inserting a finger into the anus)
during vaginal intercourse. Others use the tongue in a similar fashion for oral
stimulation.
Anal intercourse is the insertion of a man's penis into his partner's rectum.
Although anal sex is often thought of as a strictly homosexual activity, many
heterosexual couples enjoy it too.
Anal penetration can be pleasurable, but it can also be a source of physical
discomfort. The muscle on the outside of the rectum, called the anal sphincter,
ordinarily tightens if stimulated, which means that attempts at insertion of the
penis, or even a finger, may be uncomfortable even if done slowly and gently. If
penetration into the anus is forced, injury is possible. It is helpful to use a
lubricant liberally and to relax and gradually dilate the sphincter by gentle
manual stimulation before attempting penetration.
Some people clear the rectum with a small disposable enema before anal
intercourse. Because the rectum contains infection causing bacteria, anything
(fingers, objects, penis) that has had contact with the anus should not
subsequently be in contact with the vagina or mouth until it has been thoroughly
washed.
STRONG NEGATIVE ATTITUDES
Some people have strong negative attitudes toward anal sex, whether it takes
place between homosexual or heterosexual couples. They may think of it as being
unclean, unnatural, perverted, disgusting, or simply unappealing. It is
sometimes regarded as the ultimate in depravity and has regularly been condemned
by religious and secular authorities.
Historically, religious objections originate from the fact that a woman cannot
possibly get pregnant through anal sex, as some religions only approved of
sexual intercourse for the purpose of reproduction.
Anal sex is subject to legal restrictions in some states, even between married
couples. In general these statutes refer to anal sex acts as "crimes against
nature", going back to the view that heterosexual intercourse, with its
reproductive potential, is the only natural, healthy, non-sinful way of having
sexual relations. These laws are strongly biased toward the prosecution of
homosexuals because penetrative anal sex is far more common among gay men than
it is among heterosexual couples.
A LEGITIMATE FORM OF SEXUAL EXPRESSION
Despite religious and legal prohibitions to anal sex, many people, regardless of
their sexual orientation, regard it as a legitimate form of sexual expression
and as one of the fulfilling ways in which people can express their desire and
affection for each other. It is up to each couple to decide what is acceptable
and enjoyable for them. If a couple's attitudes or values make anal sex
unacceptable, or if they do not enjoy it, they should feel no pressure to engage
in it.
It is important to note that HIV, the virus causing AIDS, can be transmitted
through anal sex, especially anal intercourse. In fact, the risk of HIV
transmission is greater than it is in vaginal intercourse because the lining of
the rectum tears more easily than the vagina does. The resulting skin breaks and
bleeding increase the possibility of the transmission of bodily fluids
containing the virus that causes AIDS. For those who choose to engage in either
vaginal or anal penetrative sexual acts, using latex condoms is the best means
of reducing the likelihood of HIV transmission.
Copyright 2002 Sinclair Intimacy Institute
QUESTION
My boyfriend and I have unsafe sex, and he ejaculates in my colon. What are the
risks, other than passing an STD to my body, if this were to occur daily?
Because of a sphincter and a sharp curve between your rectum and your colon, it
would be very difficult -- if not impossible -- for a penis to penetrate the
colon. Therefore it's unlikely that your partner is actually ejaculating in your
colon. He is most likely ejaculating deep in your rectum.
You asked about non-STD risks, but I must point out that the risk of becoming
infected with HIV and other STDs through unprotected anal intercourse with an
infected partner is high. Your risk is increased by the fact that your partner
always ejaculates inside you. Withdrawing before ejaculation might lessen
somewhat your chances of becoming infected.
Your non-STD-related risks are minimal and can easily be further decreased.
To prevent other infections, avoid any oral or vaginal (if applicable)
penetration involving your partner's penis after he has penetrated you anally --
unless he puts on a new condom or cleans his penis carefully in between. There
are germs that are harmless in an anus but very dangerous in a mouth or vagina.
Anal sex can involve friction leading to abrasions within the anal cavity where
the membranes are quite delicate. Using plenty of lubrication such as Probe,
Wet, or ID will help you avoid this -- as will a slow, careful entry into the
anus. Remember, never use an oil-based lubrication such as lotion, baby oil or
Crisco with latex condoms.
If his entry or thrusting into your anus causes you severe pain, this is a sign
that injury is being done and you should consider slowing down, using more lube
or trying some other activity. This is one reason why using drugs that decrease
your awareness of pain during anal sex is a bad idea. It's also a reason why
good verbal communication with your partner decreases risk of injury during any
sexual activity. In addition, keep in mind that sexual arousal will make it
easier for you to relax your sphincter muscles for comfortable entry.
Stories of people permanently damaging or weakening their anal sphincters
through frequent anal sex are myths. Anal sex does not lead to an inability to
control bowel movements.